Waiting.....

Well, 2 weeks have passed since our file was submitted to the referral committee in Ecuador.  They gave it a favorable review, but no referral.  Today they meet again to make referrals.  I am not excited about this meeting for any reason other than it will be over and we can put another week behind us.  The reason I am not excited is because I know that we will not be receiving a referral today.  I have no need to stalk my e-mail or bother my coordinator, because it's just simply not going to happen.  In another 2 weeks I will probably be writing the same post as it probably won't happen then either.  I am trying to be hopeful, but the facts are, that the wait for a healthy girl can be anywhere from 3 to 6 months.  Right now the committee that our file was sent to does not have any healthy girls eligible for adoption yet.  So we wait, and we wait, and we wait some more.  If after a period of time they still don't have a referral available, then our file will be transferred to another province to be presented to their committee.  It doesn't make any sense to me why they wouldn't have a central registry so that files are routed to the correct province from the get go, but this is adoption and this is a foreign country and they get to make the rules.  It is what it is and we are at there mercy.  I know that the timing has to be perfect in order for us to receive the child that is meant to be ours.  I am working on being patient and trying to get things done so that when it does happen I won't be totally stressed out trying to get everything in place.  The truth is that this is not fun at all.    

Healthy girls have always been a wait, even when we adopted Olivia we had to wait.  The waiting is never easy, no matter what you have going on to distract you.  While 3 to 6 months may not be a long time for most things it is a very long time when you are waiting to meet your child.  Especially since we have already put 9 months into the process and now we are going to add up to 6 months more to just see her face, then we will add another 6 to 8 weeks before we can travel to meet her and bring her home.  The waiting just stinks, plain and simple.  Unfortunately it is the nature of the beast and we have to do whatever it takes to be united with our second daughter. 

On a brighter note Olivia has a dance competition this weekend so that will be fun and it will be a great distraction.  Good luck Stage Door Dancers!!!! 

Today Wasn't The Day!

So, I was told by our adoption coordinator several weeks ago that our file would be ready for the meeting today of the Assignment Committee in Ecuador.  After stalking my e-mail most of the day waiting for something from my coordinator, I finally decided that I should e-mail her and confirm that our file actuall made it to the committee.  I just now received a response telling me that our file was indeed submitted to the assignment committee and it was given favorable recommendation!!  That means that as soon as a little girl matches our parameters we will receive a referral!

This is great news and definite progress, however the assignment committee only meets every other week to make referrals.  That means we have two weeks until they meet again.  If we don't receive a referral that time around it will be another 2 weeks and so on.  This waiting part is very hard!  We are going to remain patient in hopes that they take their time and find the best match possible for our family!  No more stalking my e-mail until March 21st.  This is not my favorite part.  Come to think of it I don't really have a favorite part, not counting placement of course.

We are hoping to travel when school let's out for summer, but the longer it takes for a referral the less likely it is for the timing to work out.  Oh we'll the timing will be right no matter when it is!  I have a lot to get in order before we can travel so I have a lot to keep us busy with.

Until next time here is a flashback to my first brown eyed girl.