This adoption is very different from the first adoption. Different not just in that we chose a different country, but different in that I am in a different place in my life and have different obligations that I didn't have the first time around.
The first time it was me, Bill and 2 dogs. My time was my own and I could spend as little or as much time on paperwork as I wanted to and no one cared. This time around I have a daughter who is "my own time". This time I don't get to come home from work and spend the entire night working on paperwork. I get to wait until she is in bed and sound asleep before getting started. Olivia is a night owl, she doesn't like to go to bed early, she doesn't even like to go to bed late, she doesn't like to go to bed unless I go to bed. She would stay up as long as I do if I let her. So, on a good night she is asleep by 10 and I can go downstairs and start working on things, (that is if I can keep my eyes open long enough to get at least one thing done), but on a not so good night I don't even come close to getting started. So, to say it is taking a long time to complete this step would be an understatement.
Having done this before I thought it would be so easy. I would be able to get the thick homestudy packet filled out and their requested documents retrieved and sent back to them within a few days of receiving it. Wrong!
Having done it before helps me to understand what I am doing and why, but it doesn't help me one bit to expedite it. No, that requires free time on my part to devote to this. Something I don't have this time around. I'm not complaining though, because the crazy paperchase of adoption is what allowed me to be blessed with my beautiful daughter and I cherish every moment I have with her. So, to that, I will take the snail's pace that I am chasing paper at and I will take, that I don't know, or for that matter, don't care what step I'm on. I am just grateful to be making progress!
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